The man who rows the boat seldom has time to rock it. ~Bill Copeland
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I am fortunate enough to live in the spectacular Pacific Northwest. While vacationing, our family has, from time to time, traveled along Highway 410, a stretch of road that takes you from Mt. Rainier, over the Cascade mountains, by way of White Pass, and down into the Yakima Valley. It’s breathtaking!
As you begin to descend from the Cascades, the highway runs parallel to the Naches River. It occurred to me, as we were driving along a few summers ago, that if all of us took a voyage down that river in a kayak, our journeys would look completely different because the river is dotted with tiny islands.
While boating, you’d be faced with endless crossroads.
I’m not a mathematician, but it’d be interesting to figure the number of possibilities: always go left, always go right, alternate regularly between a left then right, or right then left while passing each little island. On and on the options go. The point is, we would all either travel in a lemming line or choose our own unique path.
Some of us act like coxswains, telling others how to navigate the boat, as our own oars are out of the water.
You may be bobbing your head in agreement with one or the other as you have your own life in mind. Do we try to tell someone else which course to take down the river? Or do we simply follow behind the person we think we can’t journey without?
For the purpose of this book (and your paths after), you must determine to focus on getting comfortable with your own journey, instead of focusing on another person’s voyage.
You might find it impossible not to think about your husband or children, so realize—you’re still on the same river! They are not somewhere on the Mississippi while you try to navigate the Naches River alone. You’ll picnic together at noon and moor your boats in the quaint downstream village at the end of the day, but you’ll paddle your own kayak and choose your own direction while the sun warms your shoulders.
Of course, when a family member or friend gets into trouble, requires your support, or needs your company, you can float by his side, or jump into the bow, but you don’t have to endlessly ride in a boat that is not your own.
“My problem is, that while all of you are choosing left or right, I’ve dropped my oar and my boat is sunk,” Hilary shared as the room erupted with laughter out of mutual identification when we’ve all been there. “I’m standing in the middle of an island with my hands up in the air.”
We also cried.
Hilary, because of life circumstances, could only join our Chicks with Choices™ test group one time, yet her story will always remain with me. Just prior to her visit with us, she’d been told by her husband that he didn’t love her anymore. He no longer had any desire to make their marriage work. What we discovered that day, as a group of women trying to navigate through our own array of choices, was that Hilary dropped her oar when she lost herself within her marriage.
Long before her marriage failed, and possibly shortly after her marriage began, she picked up her husband’s oar and tried to cruise through life with his paddle instead of the one her Creator carved from her favorite tree, the one sprouting from the branch of her own soul.
Slowly, she became less of the woman God created. She was no longer the girl her husband married, but someone who thought she was doing all the right things by choosing her own rejection over the temporary rejection she might have felt if she learned to cling to her own oar.
If you identify with Hilary, get back in your boat with the paddle you were meant to carry.
It’s your journey. It’s your choice!
Hilary is just one example of the many stories found in this book. As one reader commented, “I didn’t expect to feel part of a community. That was a pleasant surprise and I identified with so many of the stories shared from your test group.”
Making the daily choice to row our own boat is difficult! Don’t miss the opportunity to find support and countless decision making tools by learning The Jeremiah Method™. Click here for your copy.
“As one whose internal chooser feels broken most days, I find immediate help in Kim’s approach. She’s helped thousands just like me get from confusion to clarity, from stuck to free and in-motion–and that’s a beautiful thing. Don’t miss this book.” David Kopp, book editor, author of Praying the Bible for Your Life
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